One Thing You Should Never Do To Your Introverted Child


When I see an introverted child, my heart says the most beautiful prayers for them.

I pray that they will find the faith to align themselves with the spiritual force and divine compass already within them. I pray that they have the courage to wield the power they already carry in the depth of their soul. I pray that they know their own strength.

Many people don’t really understand introversion, and that is because we have more extroverts and ambiverts in the world.

Because most people are not kind to things they don’t understand, they respond to introversion with prejudice, dislike, judgment, fear, name-calling, and all sorts. Even when the introvert is just minding her business and hasn’t done anything to hurt them!

A few will respond to it with genuine curiosity and admiration.

I mean, I can write a whole book on the meanness and prejudices I have experienced from childhood till now just because of people’s misconceptions about my personality. But I also have many stories of love, empowering admiration, and beautiful soulful connections.

Parents of introverted children sometimes oscillate between these two spaces, one minute you are in awe of how different they are, and the next you are trying so hard to “fix” them.

One minute you are so confident in their superpowers, the next minute you are overwhelmed with fear and wondering if they will be able to hold their own in the world.

As a parent, it is not unusual to have these feelings.

What is not okay is to raise an introverted child without understanding what introversion is. Please don’t do that to them!

I am not talking about a few random searches on google, I mean a long-term study of introversion, personalities types, etc. Read numerous articles, listen to ted talks, read books, follow pages dedicated to it, etc

According to a number of studies, many introverts are deep reservoirs of some of the gifts we need to change and heal the world, unfortunately navigating through a world that is largely designed for and more accepting of extroverts, can slow them down.

It can be hard to guide them if you don’t understand them, especially in their formative and adolescent years.




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Shola Okubote

My name is Shola Okubote, I am the Founder of You can reach me on Twitter – @sholaokubote, and Instagram – sholaokubote

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