My Name Is Shola, And You Are Not The Woman That I Am

For the most part of my teenage and early twenties, I was a very conservative Christian, who was made to believe in the ideal life a woman must live, and if a woman’s life does not follow that pattern it means ‘her own has finished!’
Women who didn’t get married ‘on time’, women who got pregnant before marriage, women who left their husbands, women who are outspoken and dared to challenge the norms, women who married but have no children etc – were looked at like they have defects.
By the time I reached my late twenties…..

Hard Times Come Again No More!

April 1, 2015 I shouldn’t be in here tonight, I should be out there having fun and being grateful for all the many blessings life has given me in the past one year, but like every other birthdays, I like my nights quiet. Tonight I take a pause from my successes; I am counting my many tears and listening to my fears. All my fears.

I Already Have Everything I Need For This Year

January 1, 2015 One of my favorite things in 2014 is Nashville, an American musical drama TV series.  I find the complex relationship between Rayna Jaymes and Deacon Claybourne very titillating – the romantic attraction that pulls them together and the many complications that push them apart. All at the same time.