25 Little Things I Want To Do Before I Clock 40


We all expect to have reached some milestones by certain ages – have educational qualifications, build a career, get married, have children, start a business, own properties, make loads of money, follow passions etc. Like many people, I have spent my twenties and thirties chasing these things. Some I have achieved, others I have not achieved yet.

I turned a year older last week, and I thought, in addition to all these “milestones”, what are the simple little things I want to do before I turn 40?

I have spent the past six years especially buried so deeply in work, but now I think it is time to exhale and do some of the things I have always wanted to try.

I don’t have so much time left till 40, so I am just going to keep it simple and realistic. It will be all about slowing down to enjoy the moment and challenging myself to do new fun things.

I will be sharing my progress on Instagram; every time I complete one of the things on my list I will share a photo and story about it on Instagram. If you will like to go on this journey with me, please follow me on Instagram @sholaokubote


See A Therapist

Okay, this one is long overdue! I think it will be great to have a professional listen to me as I offload my thoughts and emotions and help me get some mental clarity. This is something I want to start before 40 and maybe continue to go into my 40s.

Call Or Meet Up With An Old Friend

I will like to reconnect with a friend I have not seen in many years. Have a chat, recall old memories and have a nice laugh.

Write A Love Letter To My Father

I talk more and write about more about my mum, and it just occurred to me that with all the love, respect and admiration I hold for my father, I have never really written anything about him. This man is an angel, a rare breed, one of his kind and I want him to know how much I love him and why.

Do A Full Face Makeup By Myself

After watching so many makeup videos on Youtube, I still have never done a complete face makeup without professional help.  I am putting this on the list to make sure I get this right even if it is just once before I turn 40. Contouring, eyelashes, highlighting… the whole damn thing!

Finish A Colouring Book

I got an adult colouring book some time ago but I never got past the first page. I want to colour this to the end and see what magic I can really create if I put my mind to it.

Write Ebook About Woman.NG

Some years ago I created Nigeria’s first online magazine for women, before this, there were print magazines with informational websites but there was never a full-blown website exclusively for women. Many people have asked me why and how I did it especially as I have run it alongside full-time jobs. I want to write about my journey so far.

Get A Tattoo

I love tiny tattoos but I don’t have any.  I will start with a tiny love tattoo on my wrist – for my late mum.

Play Lottery

Okay, so once in a while I fantasize about winning a lottery and think about all the things I can do with the money! What if there is a chance that I could win one? I will never know until I play!

Host Someone To A Three Course Meal Prepared By Me

I am nervous about hosting people and I am very impatient with cooking, so I am going to give myself a pat on the back when I complete this one.

Write A Letter To My Sixty Year Old Self

This is the scariest thing on my list, just reading out the word ‘sixty’ freaks me out, but I am going to do this!

Decide What To Do With My Hair

I don’t like weaves, I don’t like wigs. I have been able to minimize my use of them for many years because I had a long relaxed hair, unfortunately, my hair got badly damaged two years ago and I had to shave it all off. Now I have a natural unrelaxed hair and I don’t know if I want to keep it growing or just keep having a low cut. Anyway, I just want to sort my hair before I clock 40.

Bake Cakes

I love cake, but I have never made one! I am going to be baking a few types of cakes all by myself! Red velvet cake is top on the list.

Write An Article About All The Major Life Lessons I Have Learned

So many lessons have been learnt in almost 40 years, but I want to write about the ones that have had the most significant impact on my life.

Take More Photos

I can go months without a single photo. I want to break whatever it is that prevents me from taking photos by taking at least 40 photos before I turn 40. Selfies, professional shots… whatever, just take photos and capture memories!

Watch The Most Popular Videos On Youtube

So I want to watch the videos with the most views on YouTube. Maybe the top 40?  I have no particular reason for doing this, I guess I am just thinking if millions of people have seen them, why haven’t I?

Read A Few Of The Best-Selling Novels Of All Time

I read non-fiction from time to time, but I have not slowed down in years to pick up a fiction and get lost it it. I plan to read like 5 of these before I turn 40.

Splurge On A Candle Collection

I have a few random candles here and there, but I have been wanting to have a collection of really special candles for a long time and it is definitely something I will be splurging on before I turn 40.

Grow A Herb From Seed And Watch It Grow Throughout Its Lifecycle

I am not sure which herb I will be going for yet, but I really want to be committed to nurturing a plant, especially one with so many super qualities.

Do Something Good For Someone Who Doesn’t Know Who I Am

I want to do something really nice for someone anonymously. The person will see the gift but will not know the giver.

Start A  Project In Memory Of My Mother

I am already in the process of doing this but I hope to have implemented it before my 40th birthday.

Adopt The Minimalist Lifestyle

I have been following the minimalism movement for a while. I love the simplicity, the sanity and the contentment it brings. I think it is time to finally adopt the lifestyle!

Join A Yoga Class

I started doing yoga on my own some time ago, but I stopped before I could master it. I think joining a group of other yogis will help me learn better and stay motivated.

Learn More About Another Religion

I am a Christian who has been curious about some religions for some time. I want to take some time to have a better understanding of at least one other religion. What do they believe? Why do they believe?  How are they different from people of other beliefs? I want to know.


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April 25, 2019

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My name is Shola Okubote, I am the Founder of Woman.ng You can reach me on shola@woman.ng Twitter – @sholaokubote, and Instagram – sholaokubote

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    Irene Ugbah says

    Hi Shola,
    I can feel through this article. Thank you for sharing. I will be turning 40 in a bit am sure earlier than you. Literally its like the excitement is overwhelming me though at the beginning of the year I was having this “kini” big deal mentality as in what have I achieved etc. Thank God for close friends that made me snap out from that mood. So I am super excited and also writing the final chapters of my book I started some seven years ago-my 40 life lessons @40.
    Keep being you.
    Irene Ugbah

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      Shola Okubote says

      Thanks for your warm comments and happy 40th in advance! Congratulations on the book, I will really love to learn from your life lessons, please let me know when I get it. Thank you.

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    Adeyinka Olufemi Ifedapo says

    Your write ups are simply inspiring, bringing awesome light and enthusiasm into the dullest of days. I owe myself a duty of reading all that comes from ur blog…..for obvious reasons: they’re so educative and time-relevant. I look forward to reading something about ‘how to emotionally manage memories of life’s aspirations that never came through’- from your own perspective.

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      Shola Okubote says

      Thank you so much for your warm comments about my posts, I am glad you like them. I actually have a few things to say about the topic you suggested, I may write a post about it soon!

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    [comment from facebook] Opara Francisca says

    This just reminded of my journey so far in life and I would like to do something like this.

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    [comment from facebook] Okori Josephine Ochuole says

    I would like to write about the life lessons I’ve learnt. This one touched me.

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    [comment from facebook] Wealthy Efe says

    Dreams and aspirations are the reason we don’t up on life. Knowing that one day 90% of the goals we have set for ourselves will be executed. #hope

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    [comment from facebook] DJ-Irawo Drummer says

    I am forty-one.

    I changed my talents into my career before I was forty.

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    [comment from facebook] Nina-Sylva Mma Stephen says

    Quite captivating.

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    [comment from facebook] Aromona Olukemi Makinde says

    I believe that fate will always take it place no matter what.Destiny can not be erased.Every body has a story to tell.

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    Dorkas Jhosef says

    This has to do with time chance and destiny, sometimes things happen not the way we want but the way God have destined it from the beginning

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    Eno says

    Hello Shola,this is a very insightful writeup. On your list are a few things i will like to do myself like bake cake and host a 3 course meal prepared by me.

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