We all expect to have reached some milestones by certain ages – have educational qualifications, build a career, get married, have children, start a business, own properties, make loads of money, follow passions etc. Like many people, I have spent my twenties and thirties chasing these things. Some I have achieved, others I have not achieved yet.
I turned a year older last week, and I thought, in addition to all these “milestones”, what are the simple little things I want to do before I turn 40?
I have spent the past six years especially buried so deeply in work, but now I think it is time to exhale and do some of the things I have always wanted to try.
I don’t have so much time left till 40, so I am just going to keep it simple and realistic. It will be all about slowing down to enjoy the moment and challenging myself to do new fun things.
I will be sharing my progress on Instagram; every time I complete one of the things on my list I will share a photo and story about it on Instagram. If you will like to go on this journey with me, please follow me on Instagram @sholaokubote
See A Therapist
Okay, this one is long overdue! I think it will be great to have a professional listen to me as I offload my thoughts and emotions and help me get some mental clarity. This is something I want to start before 40 and maybe continue to go into my 40s.
Call Or Meet Up With An Old Friend
I will like to reconnect with a friend I have not seen in many years. Have a chat, recall old memories and have a nice laugh.
Write A Love Letter To My Father
I talk more and write about more about my mum, and it just occured to me that with all the love, respect and admiration I hold for my father, I have never really written anything about him. This man is an angel, a rare breed, one of his kind and I want him to know how much I love him and why.
Do A Full Face Makeup By Myself
After watching so many makeup videos on Youtube, I still have never done a complete face makeup without professional help. I am putting this on the list to make sure I get this right even if it is just once before I turn 40. Contouring, eyelashes, highlighting… the whole damn thing!
Finish A Colouring Book
I got an adult colouring book some time ago but I never got past the first page. I want to colour this to the end and see what magic I can really create if I put my mind to it.
Write Ebook About Woman.NG
Some years ago I created Nigeria’s first online magazine, before this, there were print magazines with informational websites but there was never a full blown website exclusively for women. Many people have asked me why and how I did it especially as I have run it alongside full-time jobs. I want to write about my journey so far.
Get A Tattoo
I love tiny tattoos but I don’t have any. I will start with a tiny love tattoo on my wrist – for my late mum.
Okay, so once in a while I fantasize about winning a lottery and think about all the things I can do with the money! What if there is a chance that I could win one? I will never know until I play!
Host Someone To A Three Course Meal Prepared By Me
I am nervous about hosting people and I am very impatient with cooking, so I am going to give myself a pat on the back when I complete this one.
Write A Letter To My Sixty Year Old Self
This is the scariest thing on my list, just reading out the word ‘sixty’ freaks me out, but I am going to do this!
Decide What To Do With My Hair
I don’t like weaves, I don’t like wigs. I have been able to minimize my use of them for many years because I had a long relaxed hair, unfortunately, my hair got badly damaged two years ago and I had to shave it all off. Now I have a natural unrelaxed hair and I don’t know if I want to keep it growing or just keep having a low cut. Anyway, I just want to sort my hair before I clock 40.
I love cake, but I have never made one! I am going to be baking a few types of cakes all by myself! Red velvet cake is top on the list.
Write An Article About All The Major Life Lessons I Have Learned
So many lessons have been learnt in almost 40 years, but I want to write about the ones that have had the most significant impact on my life.
Have An All Day Spa Experience
One day of pampering my body – mani, pedi, massage, facials etc – everything all in one day!
Take More Photos
I can go months without a single photo. I want to break whatever it is that prevents me from taking photos by taking at least 40 photos before I turn 40. Selfies, professional shots… whatever, just take photos and capture memories!
Watch The Most Popular Videos On Youtube
So I want to watch the videos with the most views on YouTube. Maybe the top 40? I have no particular reason for doing this, I guess I am just thinking, if millions of people have seen them, why haven’t I?
Read A Few Of The Best-Selling Novels Of All Time
I read non-fiction from time to time, but I have not slowed down in years to pick up a fiction and get lost it it. I plan to read like 5 of these before I turn 40.
Splurge On A Candle Collection
I have a few random candles here and there, but I have been wanting to have a collection of really special candles for a long time and it is definitely something I will be splurging on before I turn 40.
Grow A Herb From Seed And Watch It Grow Throughout Its Lifecycle
I am not sure which herb I will be going for yet, but I really want to be committed to nurturing a plant, especially one with so many super qualities.
Do Something Good For Someone Who Doesn’t Know Who I Am
I want to do something really nice for someone anonymously. The person will see the gift but will not know the giver.
Start A Project In Memory Of My Mother
I am already in the process of doing this but I hope to have implemented it before my 40th birthday.
Adopt The Minimalist Lifestyle
I have been following the minimalism movement for a while. I love the simplicity, the sanity and the contentment it brings. I think it is time to finally adopt the lifestyle!
Join A Yoga Class
I started doing yoga on my own some time ago, but I stopped before I could master it. I think joining a group of other yogis will help me learn better and stay motivated.
Learn More About Another Religion
I am a Christian who has been curious about some religions for some time. I want to take some time to have a better understanding of at least one other religion. What do they believe? Why do they believe? How are they different from people of other beliefs? I want to know.
Work In Another Country
I have visited a few countries and lived in two. At this phase of my life, I strongly desire to live and work in another country. Before I turn 40, I want to make this a reality. I have my eyes on a particular country and I will be actively looking for opportunities for work there.
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My name is Shola, drawing from my own life experiences I write about emotional wellness, living an authentic life and finding purpose in life’s pain.
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April 25, 2019