The Brutal Truths We All Need To Hear About Depression In Nigeria

I am not sure what the official statistics are as at today, but if we are to go by the reports we read in the news and the experiences of the people around us, I think it is safe to say depression may be on the rise in Nigeria.

According to health.harvard.edu, there are many possible causes of depression, including faulty mood regulation by the brain, genetic vulnerability, medications, and medical problems, also stress, grief or difficult life circumstances.  It is believed these factors can act alone or interact to cause depression.

For this post I am going to focus on one of the major depression triggers in Nigeria, which is – difficult life circumstances.

All The Things That Happened To Me After My Mother Died

 

My mother passed on 17 months ago aged 63 years. One day I am going to write about her life and her death, but not today. Today, I write about the overwhelming pain of loss I felt and still feel. Today, I write about this thing called grief.

In this post I will be focusing on the things I experienced at different times especially in the first one year after her death. In another post coming later,  I will share how I have been able to deal with some of these things and how I am finding healing and purpose in the pain.

25 Little Things I Want To Do Before I Clock 40

 

We all expect to have reached some milestones by certain ages – have educational qualifications, build a career, get married, have children, start a business, own properties, make loads of money, follow passions etc. Like many people, I have spent my twenties and thirties chasing these things. Some I have achieved, others I have not achieved yet.

To The 20-Something Year Old Who Is Sad Because Things Are Not Working For Her Yet

They said you have been depressed; they think you have given up on life. You told them you don’t think God loves you like He loves others. When people ask you why you are so depressed, you say it is because your friends are moving forward in life but you are still at home after your NYSC, doing nothing.

I told them I will encourage you and tell you not to give up, that good things will come your way too. But, they said they have already told you that and you don’t want to hear it. So I thought, I should tell you something else then, some brutal truths about life that you probably have not been prepared for;

12 Beliefs Holding You Back From Honouring Your Life’s True Calling

If you are alive, you have a contribution to make to this world; you have a meaningful reason for being here. It is a divine assignment given to you so you can bring some light and healing to the world. It is God’s gift to the world sent through you; your job is to deliver it.

Many people are doing all they can to live their best lives but there is still a nagging feeling deep inside, they know there is more to their lives beyond the regular day to day hustle.  Your calling is the meaning you are looking for. If you want to have true success in life, fulfilling your calling is a step you have to take.

What You Should Do While Working And Waiting For Your Financial Breakthrough

This year I have met many young people who are in financial difficulties; they are working hard and trying their best to get better life opportunities. They are not complacent, they not irresponsible, they are not folding their arms waiting for something to happen, but things just aren’t adding up for them yet. They are so weary and tired of not having enough to meet their needs, and not being able to achieve their bigger dreams.

How I Stay Content In Spite Of My Life Circumstances

This post was first published on Woman.NG 

For most of my adult life, I have not been contented. I wanted many things to be different, I wanted to be in another place, and I wanted more than I always had. I am not wrong to desire and pursue the bigger, better and brighter things of life, but I have not done myself much good by allowing that desire to overcome me and blind me to the beauty of the many good things I already have.

I Have Got A Heart As Loud As Lions, So Why Let My Voice Be Tamed?

This post was first published on Woman.NG 

One of my favorite songs of all times is Emeli Sande’s Read All About It. In the year I fell in love with this song, every evening after work I put it on auto replay while I drowned the noise of the world in a warm bath. There I could listen to my own inner voice, untamed, unafraid, and unashamed. There I could be the one who is not stuck in silence afraid of saying something wrong.