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Dec 06
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A Prayer For Someone Who Has Had A Turbulent 2019

Month after month, you hoped for a breakthrough. You were sad, you were afraid, you were frustrated, you were confused. You wondered if you will ever rise from the rubbles of your shattered dreams. You wondered if you will ever make it out of this dark night of your soul. I am here to tell you this ….

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Dec 06
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Read This If Your Parent Is Suffering From A Chronic Illness (Guide)

You will find yourself in a complex emotional roller coaster that will change your life forever – one minute you are in shock, the next minute you are oscillating between anger, sadness, helplessness, confusion, fear and sometimes even guilt. Through it all, you will need to find the strength to do what is right for your parent.

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Oct 26
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The Deep Questions You Need To Ask Your Mother Before She Is Gone

Since she passed away two years ago, I have wondered how much of her life experiences she never talked about. Sometimes I feel like asking her a question but I can’t, she is gone.

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Sep 16
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If You Do These Things To People, You Are Inviting Negative Energy Into Your Own Life

When you deliberately do things to hurt other people, you are also hurting yourself. With every mean word and action you put out there, you strip yourself of inner peace and positive energy.

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Jul 23
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Read This If You Think You Are Lagging Far Behind In Life

I am now more accepting of the fact that my life is moving and flourishing at its own destined pace. Here are some short, straight and sweet lessons I have learned along the way!

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Jun 13
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The Brutal Truths We All Need To Hear About Depression In Nigeria

If you live in Nigeria, you should not be surprised that many people are at the risk of depression due to continuing life difficulties – unemployment, injustice, insecurity, abuse, poverty, poor support, inability to meet social/cultural/religious expectations etc.

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May 22
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All The Things That Happened To Me After My Mother Died

One day I am going to write about her life and her death, but not today. Today, I write about the overwhelming pain of loss I felt and still feel. Today, I write about this thing called grief.

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Apr 24
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25 Little Things I Want To Do Before I Clock 40

I don’t have so much time left till 40, so I am just going to keep it simple and realistic. It will be all about slowing down to enjoy the moment and challenging myself to do new fun things.

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Mar 09
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To The 20-Something Year Old Who Is Sad Because Things Are Not Working For Her Yet

I told them I will encourage you and tell you not to give up, that good things will come your way too. But, they said they have already told you that and you don’t want to hear it. So I thought, I should tell you something else then, some brutal truths about life that you probably have not been prepared for;

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Feb 01
7 I Am Either Authentic Or Authentic!

One Of These Things Is Holding You Back From Honouring Your Life’s True Calling

It is a divine assignment given to you so you can bring some light and healing to the world. It is God’s gift to the world sent through you; your job is to deliver it.

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Dec 27
35 Finding My Zen In This Chaotic World

What You Should Do While Working And Waiting For Your Financial Breakthrough

They are not complacent, they not irresponsible, they are not folding their arms waiting for something to happen, but things just aren’t adding up for them yet. They are so weary and tired of not having enough to meet their needs, and not being able to achieve their bigger dreams.

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Dec 03
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To Someone In Grief, I Am Here To Listen

One minute I feel like I am over it, but then the next minute I am sobbing, and shaking and struggling to breathe. Sometimes I push it away all day, but then it comes rushing back at the dead of the night.

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Aug 21
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How I Stay Content In Spite Of My Life Circumstances

No matter how hard I work and pray, there are some things that will never be, or may not be how and when I want them… but I know that peace is always available even in the toughest of times, if I choose to be still, I will find it…

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Mar 08
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I Have Got A Heart As Loud As Lions, So Why Let My Voice Be Tamed?

Of the ones who slayed and the ones who got slain, of the ones who walk through life heads up and the ones who crawl with fingers fastened on the patched hard soil, of the ones who started early and bloomed early, and the ones who started early but bloomed late, of the ones living their dreams and the ones who will never get the happiness they truly deserve.

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Dec 28
74 Life Happened To Me!

This Is My Fibroid Story Of Blood, Pain And Brokenness

Pain became a part of me. Along with it came a heavy downpour of period blood. Stained cloths, stained seats, stained sheets – I left blood everywhere I went… I knew the fibroids had grown; I would lie on my back and touch one of them bulging right through…

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  • Dec 06
    A Prayer For Someone Who Has Had A Turbulent 2019
  • Dec 06
    Read This If Your Parent Is Suffering From A Chronic Illness (Guide)
  • Oct 26
    The Deep Questions You Need To Ask Your Mother Before She Is Gone
  • Sep 16
    If You Do These Things To People, You Are Inviting Negative Energy Into Your Own Life
  • Jul 23
    Read This If You Think You Are Lagging Far Behind In Life
  • Jun 13
    The Brutal Truths We All Need To Hear About Depression In Nigeria
  • May 22
    All The Things That Happened To Me After My Mother Died
  • Apr 24
    25 Little Things I Want To Do Before I Clock 40
  • Mar 09
    To The 20-Something Year Old Who Is Sad Because Things Are Not Working For Her Yet
  • Feb 01
    One Of These Things Is Holding You Back From Honouring Your Life’s True Calling
  • Dec 27
    What You Should Do While Working And Waiting For Your Financial Breakthrough
  • Dec 03
    To Someone In Grief, I Am Here To Listen
  • Aug 21
    How I Stay Content In Spite Of My Life Circumstances
  • Mar 08
    I Have Got A Heart As Loud As Lions, So Why Let My Voice Be Tamed?
  • Dec 28
    This Is My Fibroid Story Of Blood, Pain And Brokenness
  • Nov 14
    It May Not Look Like It But Only Good Things Are Going To Happen Here Today…
  • Jun 27
    My Very Simple Guide To Gender Equality And Feminism As A Nigerian Woman
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    My Name Is Shola, And You Are Not The Woman That I Am

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